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June 12, 2014

Raising Kids

Raising kids has never been easy. Of all species, humans take the longest time to turn into self-sufficient adults. For this discussion, let us leave out those who never seem to grow up at all!

Although my child-rearing days are over, I still like to read the words of the wise on this important topic. After all, each new generation impacts the future of the human race. It is common enough to hear parents and other oldies deploring the so-called irresponsible and unfathomable ways of the modern youth, as they mutter: Where did we go wrong? 



The quote above is a pointer. And let us not forget the American saying: " Monkey see, monkey do" - succinct, telling and so true!



To end, a line for Father's Day: "Any man can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad."



January 08, 2014

New Year 2014

Another year has passed. I look back, recalling the good times, choosing not to dwell on the bad ones ... and I am grateful.

Good health, caring friends, peaceful domesticity, rewarding community service, engrossing hobbies and pleasant social interaction - these I had aplenty in 2013. I made two trips abroad. One was an enjoyable tour of South East Asia - Bali, Viet Nam and Cambodia. Being summer, we sweated a LOT. Otherwise, we had an excellent time  - great sightseeing, yummy food, fun shopping and congenial company. From June to September I visited my sons and their families in the US. Spending quality time with my grandkids was the highlight of  this vacation.

For Christmas and the next few days I was in Manglore catching up with old friends and relations, seeing familiar places of my childhood and reliving old times, while enjoying the current social scene. I was back in Bangalore on the 31st,  to end 2013 with a late evening service at the Cathedral and to bring in the new year with a dear friend and her family. The weather in Bangalore is at its coldest - a welcome change from the hot days which are getting worse due to the deteriorating environment in the city.

In the first week of 2014, America is experiencing uprecedented cold weather. I just read the Latest News Report  about the Polar Vortex sweeping across North America and saw a map of the Affected Regions in the US. Climate changes, global warming, the environment - these need more attention and concerted action, cutting across political and economic barriers.

My eldest granddaughter was lucky. Well before the unexpected cold wave hit, she enjoyed lovely weather and excellent skiing conditions in Utah. Together with her father, she honed her skills on the blue slopes. They returned safely back home to the East Coast soon after the New Year.


Through it all, this little guy was snug indoors!
My four-year-old granddaughter who lives in the vicinity of New York, stayed home from school and built a snowman, happily unaware of the sub-zero temperatures disrupting life.


At the same time, on the diametrically opposite side of the planet, it is sweltering summer. My grandkids in New Zealand  enjoy a cool treat in their backyard.

December 29, 2013

Christmas 2013

Around the Christmas tree, with gifts opened and happy faces.


November 02, 2013

Halloween

Halloween is celebrated on October 31  each year. We picture it as a fun-filled evening for little kids to dress up in scary costumes and go trick-or-treating. But did you know that like many other customs, this too has ancient origins?

About a thousand years ago, Halloween was called All Hallows E'en (the eve of All Saints' Day) - a Christian festival of all those who've  died and gone to Heaven. Much before that - probably more than two thousand years ago - it was a Pagan celebration of the Celts who inhabited  present-day Ireland, Scotland and parts of France. In those ancient times, Halloween was the night before the ancient festival of Samhain, the Celtic lord of death.

Celtic Traditions

Samhain marked the transition from Autumn to the beginning of winter - the season of cold, darkness and decay. On that night, the boundary between this world and the after-world is opened; the dead roam and mingle freely among the living for one night. Frightening fantasies and stories featuring ghosts, witches, monsters and evil spirits were associated with it.

It is believed that this feast was a celebration of the recent dead - warriors lost in battle, children at birth, the old and the sick. There is a legend of an Irish king who, every Samhain, ordered his cooks to prepare and set out the finest food in a great hall. A  place was set for every warrior who was lost in the last year. The living would eat outside and  the banquet hall, with the doors shut, was left to the dead. Nobody alive dared to enter or look in. Legend has it that the food mysteriously disappeared overnight!

In the 9th century, the Church designated November 1 as All Saints’ Day to honor all saints and November 2 as All Souls' Day, to commemorate the dead. The Celtic people who had embraced Christianity added some of the old Pagan traditions to Halloween. They would light huge bonfires, wear costumes to ward off the roaming spirits of the dead, parade in groups and share superstitious stories.

Trick or Treat

The tradition dates back to the early All Souls' Day parades in England. During the festivities, the poor would beg for food and families would give them pastries called "soul cakes" in return for their prayers for the family's dead relatives. Going a-souling was eventually taken up by children who would visit houses in their neighborhood to get ale, food and money.

An early reference to this ritual in North America was around 1911, when a newspaper  reported that  on Halloween, small children visited shops and neighbours to be rewarded with nuts and candies for their rhymes and songs. Today, "trick-or-treating" is the hallmark of Halloween. Kids  in fancy costumes knock at neighbours' doors to be given candy and sweets.

In America

In the US and Canada, as the beliefs and customs of different immigrant ethnic groups meshed, a distinct version of Halloween emerged. Wearing of weird costumes and masks has Celtic roots: to avoid being recognized by ghosts, people would wear masks when they left their homes after dark so that the ghosts would mistake them for fellow spirits. Colonial Halloween festivities also featured the telling of ghost stories and mischief-making of all kinds. Irish-American and Scottish-American societies held dinners and balls that celebrated their heritages. Recitation of Robert Burns' poem Halloween was not uncommon.

This was not a major holiday in the US until the 20th century. Mass producing of Halloween costumes began only in the 1930's. Now Americans spend billions of dollars annually on Halloween, one of the country's largest commercial holidays. House and yard decorations, candies and chocolates, costumes for young and old - all sell like the proverbial hot cakes. After the kids are done with trick-or-treating, there are parades, costume parties and competitions for adults. Guess which are the top 5 favourite adult costumes in the US? Tell us in the *comments* box below.

July 19, 2013

Connoisseurs of the Unavailable

This post is an email forward from a friend.  I felt an immediate affinity to my own childhood  and decided to share it with you. If you grew up in India in the 60's you will remember most of the things  described below.

 Remembrance of Things Past

 If you remember the days when Lifebuoy and Cinthol dominated the soap
 market in India, you may find this forward worth reading. Please
 forward to those who may be interested in this remembrance of how life
 was in our school days.
 
 When I think of my childhood in late middle age, I remember people
 less vividly than I remember things. I remember scented erasers made
 of opaque rubber topped with a strip of translucent green. Also a
 cheaper eraser enigmatically called Sandow. And soap. The history of
 middle-class India in the 1960s and 1970s can be written in soap and
 detergent.

 Red Lifebuoy was the soap you washed your hands with afterwards.
 Cinthol (green) was the bar to bathe with except for people with
 aspirations who bought Moti, a fat round of soap too large for small
 hands, or Pears. But Pears was posh; any household that routinely used
 Pears wasn't middle class; it was the sort of place that bought crates
 of Coca Cola instead of bottles of Kissan orange squash, where the
 children went to boarding school and owned complete sets of Tintin.

 The only detergent that seems to have survived as a brand is Surf. Not
 that anyone used the word "detergent" in the 1960s. Surf was
 detergent: it was the generic word for any powd ered soap that came in
 a box and was used to wash clothes. Nobody had heard of Rin or Nirma;
 a cheap yellow cake of washing soap called Sunlight was widely used,
 but it was an inferior thing, used offstage by the hired help, not the
 housewife.

 There was a soap to wash woollens with called Lux Flakes, which smelt
 nice but disappeared from the market early on. I think our parents
 liked the thought of collecting petrol-perfumed woollens in giant
 brown paper bags so much that they were willing to pay Novex and
 Snowhite (and BandBox) a bit extra for that privilege. Dry-cleaning
 was a way of being modern, smart and confidently middle class.

 Apart from soap, childhood was defined by toothpaste. Nearly everybody
 used Colgate and that hasn't changed, but for a while Binaca Green was
 a real contender. My earliest experience of difference was realizing
 that mine was the only family amongst the people we knew which read
 The Statesman and brushed its teeth with a green toothpaste. Every one
 else took the Times of India and gloried in the peppermint joy of
 Colgate. We were pioneering ecological puritans: we brushed our teeth
 with a horrible non-foaming toothpaste that left us with a bad taste
 in the mouth entirely because it claimed to be made up of chlorophyll.
 The only good thing to be said for "Binaca Green" was that it
 sponsored a Radio Ceylon programme of filmi songs called Binaca Geet
 Mala. (and what about the little ugly plastic animals that we
 squabbled over??)

 There was a short-lived star (not so short - in my memory!!) in the
 toothpaste stakes, though, called Signal, which came in white and red
 stripes. Even a child my age who could barely recognize a polysyllabic
 word knew that the red stripes were made of a magical substance called
 hexachlorophene. Not that we cared: our interest was limited to our
 scientific curiosity about how the toothpaste worm came out
 continuously striped. It was later that I learnt that hexachlorophene
 caused fits and paralysis and was especially bad for children.

 My grandmother claimed that this bore out everything she had always
 suspected about toothpaste; her solution was to make us scrub our
 teeth with index fingers smeared with powdered coal. She called it
 "kala manjan", literally black tooth powder, and it came in small
 bottles with crude red labels. It left you feeling gritty in the mouth
 for hours afterwards and we resented it as we resented anything that
 seemed un-modern or vaguely home-made, but in retrospect it had an
 important virtue: you could swallow it without convulsing or dying.

 There were some not-modern things that were diverting for brief
 periods. Just before winter, an old man with a giant single-stringed
 instrument that looked like a misshapen bow would camp in the
 stairwell that led up to our government flat to "card" the clumped-up
 rooi or cotton-wool inside our razais (quilts). His massive ektara
 made a deep thrumming sound which was amusing for about five minutes
 before you realized that it was the only sound it could make and left to play cricket or ludo or something.

 Likewise, summer was announced by the ganderiwala or the sugarcane man
 who stationed his cart outside the house and ran giant sticks of
 sugarcane, six at a time, through his hand-cranked press. Then he'd
 double the husked sticks and run them through again. The juice ran
 through a sieve filled with broken ice into an aluminium jug. Before
 he gave you the glass, he mixed in a patented powder that was nine
 parts kala namak, a kind of rock salt. The juice, the ganne ka ras,
 was nectar and no one really minded about the dirt or the germs or the
 deep black of his fingernails for the same reason as no one boiled
 water at home or bought water outside except from vendors who sold it
 for two paise a glass: because we were stupid and didn't mind dying
 young. (or until we came down with "jaundice"!! And not to forget the
 cucumber slices with dried-up lime cheeks dipped in salt and lurid
 green coriander-chilly paste or the "Polly" mangoes stuffed with a
 salt and red chilly powder mixture)

 The cotton carder and the sugarcane man are nearly extinct in
 metropolitan Delhi as is Bapsi Sidhwa's ice candy man (and completely
 so in Bangalore). When I was a child in Kashmere Gate, the chuskiwala
 would visit once a week with his brown wooden box lined with a kind of
 woollen felt. He would then shape for us roughly conical lumps of
 shaved ice and colour them with radioactive liquids. They were
 horrible, unnatural colours; I ate the ice lollies because all my
 older cousins did but I hated the taste. When we moved to a government
 flat in New Delhi, I became an enthusiastic patron of the four-anna
 orange bar peddled by the Kwality ice cream man in the neighbourhood.

 But because my childhood happened in an autarkic India, committed to
 the twin gods of self-sufficiency and high tariff barriers, it was the
 things that we didn't have that I remember better than the ones that
 we did. Orange bars, HMV records, Godrej refrigerators, bond paper,
 Cadbury's Fruit & Nut, Naga shawls, Phantom peppermint cigarettes (Oh!
 those peppermint ciggies with their little red tips!) and ugly walnut
 tables from Kashmir were nice but they were available (if your parents
 had the money to spare) and therefore not nearly as desirable as the
 things you couldn't have except from that supermarket in the sky
 called "Foreign".

 Wrigley's Spearmint, Quality Street and (for unknowable reasons) Kraft
 cheese was the toll that foreign-returners routinely paid for going
 abroad without their families, but these were perishable things from
 an inferior heaven. The real loot, or maal, was impossibly rare
 consumer durables. (like that TDK reel-to-reel tape-recorder and
 the"radio-gram"!)

 Seiko watches, for example, with 17 jewels and radium dials. Not one
 of us knew what jewels were doing inside a watch but they were
 precious and the number gave us a way of measuring value in the same
 way as 17 gun salutes told you something about the standing of a
 princely state.

 The thing in question didn't have to be expensive: it merely had to be
 foreign and better in some real or imagined way than its Indian
 equivalent. So if you played table tennis you craved Japanese Nittaku
 balls instead of the deceptively foreign- sounding but actually desi,
 Montana. Later the Chinese came up with cheap, virtually
 indestructible balls called Shield but those were never as fetishized
 as the Nittaku balls because they became increasingly available in
 India and where was the romance in that?

But nothing was as glamourous as a can of Dunlop tennis balls. Unlike
 Indian tennis balls, these were sealed in pressurized containers and
 when you pulled the metal tab, there was a little whoosh and you
 breathed in a compressed burst of scientific-smelling foreign air.

 So geometry boxes by Staedtler, table tennis bats called Butterfly,
 Bic ballpoint pens, little flat torches that dangled off keychains,
 and Parker 45 pens with impossible-to-buy-in-India ink cartridges
 (remember them?) - these were a few of our favourite things. We almost
 never got them, but when we did, we experienced a gloating fulfillment
 that only scarcity can induce.

 Pundits sniff disapprovingly about the consumerism that the
 liberalization of the economy has encouraged. This would seem to
 suggest that before 1991, Indians, willy nilly, lived in a state of
 non-consuming grace. This is just not true; the middle-class children
 of the 1960s loved things much more intensely than their children do
 simply because they didn't have them. You can spot us at a distance in
 airport terminals: we're the grey-haired men who can't tear themselves
 away from the cigarette cartons even though we stopped smoking three
 years ago and won't part with money to buy any for our friends. We are
 that odd cohort, a Duty Free Generation that never went abroad in its
 youth - connoisseurs, therefore, of the unavailable



January 19, 2013

Christmas 2012

I missed posting during the Christmas Season that's just gone by. Travelling - and its aftermath - kept me away from my blog. Although we're well past the traditional Epiphany Day, I'm sharing this short clip about a simple piano lesson and a beautiful message. As I post this, I'm thinking of my granddaughter Zoya who will soon learn to play the first notes on her new violin.



When the year 2013 is over, may you have added a lot to your store of happy memories...

December 07, 2012

Autism

The birth of a baby is a joyous event. Three months ago, my daughter gave birth. Just a few days ago, my daughter-in-law did the same. Now I have two new, healthy, angelic grandchildren. Watching, admiring and nurturing the little ones is a joy that has no comparison.

Autism
As a baby grows, each day brings new signs of growth and development. But if the child has autism, within the first two years parents notice unusual behaviour that tells them that something is wrong.

Autism or ASD is a pervasive neural developmental disorder. It is diagnosed by certain characteristic symptoms such as impairments in social interaction, communication and repetitive behavior. It is shattering for the parents when they are told that the causes are unclear and there is no 'cure'. It is the beginning of a frustrating and stressful journey for the child and the family. More often than not, as the condition deteriorates, the road spirals downwards.

I have only an outsider's view of what it means. Harshita Mahajan, the mother of an autistic child, gives us a glimpse into her world. Every day she learns something new about herself and her autistic son.

A Mother's Words

I am the mother of 14-year-old Sahil, a boy on the autism spectrum. I have been reading, living and breathing autism for the last 12-and-a-half years. Being faced with autism 24/7 brings out the best and worst in me. We have had highs and lows and many, many plateaus. I have learned slowly who my son is… and learned to appreciate his character, intellect and love for me.

I have learned to count my blessings: The fact that despite being severely impaired in many aspects of his life, his cognition is relatively intact; in spite of the physiological challenges and many invisible medical issues my son grapples with, he has a wonderful positivity and even more amazing implicit trust and faith that I will finally make things better for him; the fact that my son has learned to use the written medium to communicate his deepest feelings and thoughts; that from somewhere, I am usually able to dig very deep within myself and find the strength to continue to NOT accept his impairments as carved in stone and look for solutions with the same intensity as I did 12-and-a-half years ago.

But sometimes this sanctum Sahil and I exist in, is violated. Yesterday, we were going on a family visit to the aquarium. He had worn his shoes and jacket and was waiting impatiently for me at the door of our apartment. I was locking up and then remembered that I had forgotten my camera inside. I re-entered my apartment to retrieve it and in the meantime Sahil made off to the lift. By the time I reached the lift lobby, he had already gotten into a lift and disappeared. This has happened before, and normally he always comes straight back to the sixth floor where we live.

I pressed the lift button, waited patiently for a lift door to open on our floor. A lift arrived and the door opened…the lift was empty. I let the door close and pressed the lift button again to call the second lift…convinced he would be in it. The lift door opened and my neighbour emerged. He said, “Hi, your son is in the lobby, taking down the Christmas tree.”

All you need to destroy a balloon is a pinprick… this was my pinprick.

When I reached the lobby, sure enough Sahil had denuded the apartment Christmas tree of all the ribbons decorating it. I grabbed the ribbons, mortified and placed them on the table. I forgot about all the intelligent things he had ever typed, the fact that his school principal thought that one day he might go to college…

All I can think is what a friend of mine had said to me once… that autism is a zero sum game… you are either functional or you aren’t. Cognition doesn’t make the cut alone… it’s only a small part of the puzzle… a contributor to functionality… perhaps important but there are so many other important skills that make human beings functional enough to live in a society… social understanding… impulse control… emotional balance… and many, many other prerequisites.

And why did he pull the ribbons off the tree instead of coming back to the sixth floor? Perhaps because he is obsessed with stringy objects and because of his irritation at being made to wait, and the fact that he knew he was unsupervised, he succumbed to the urge to get at the ribbons.

I had argued with my friend that in terms of her binary analogy that autism was a journey where we moved from the zero to the one. But finally you have to decide whether you are at zero or at one.

March 20, 2012

End of a Journey

The plane landed in Bangalore, at 1.15 am, bringing my holiday in the US to an end. As the taxi sped along the quiet roads, familiar landmarks and smells reminded me that I was home. A warm shower, a refreshing bottle of water and I was ready for bed. The rest of the day passed in a jet-lagged haze. In the night I slept fitfully,  dreaming that I heard amaya's cries and her favourite songs on the boom box. I watched Zoya running towards her classroom at school.  Memories of the last 10 weeks are beginning to settle down!

That was yesterday. This morning I woke up at 4 am. By 6.30 I was on my morning walk, which ended, as usual, at the little chapel of the Cloistered Carmelite nuns. I'm back to my normal daily routine!

November 01, 2011

Bullying in School

School is supposed to be filled with learning, fun and games. Bullying can  ruin it, leaving  painful emotional scars and memories of bitter experiences of one's  school days.

Why it Happens
Parent-Teacher Collaboration
Tips to Handle Bullying

October is Anti-bullying Awareness Month. Watch this clip where kids see a bullying episode and talk about it. This was in Australia. But it happens everywhere.

October 03, 2011

What You Learn in School

We send our children to school around the age of three. We fervently hope that they will get a good education. What is a good education? Schools  primarily  focus on academic excellence in the classroom. In the initial years children are taught the 3 R's. Physical development on the playground and cultural activities are optional add-ons. Some schools throw in an occasional event centered round nature and the environment. But social and emotional learning (SEL) is hardly ever mentioned.

Experts in child development emphasize that pre-school sets the tone for the child’s perception of social interactions. This is often a child’s first experience in a structured social environment among strangers. The pattern of behaviour that a child learns here can persist throughout high school, college and later, in the work place. The impact of these initial experiences on a child's personality cannot be underestimated. If so, shouldn't SEL also be in the school curriculum?


Social and Emotional Skills
In the 'good old days' a household  was large and stable. Two or three generations of the extended family and many siblings lived under the same roof. Relatives, neighbours and friends joined in the regular social and religious events. In this informal school a child automatically acquired social skills.  Children  raised in this environment also learnt emotional skills without the stress of coping with strange or unfamiliar patterns of behaviour.

Nowadays the norm is a nuclear family. Both parents may have careers or there may be a single parent. Daycare centers too may be part of the set up. Perhaps we need a school for social and emotional skills. Or a system that incorporates them in the existing school curriculum. This is not a new concept. Several years ago, educational experts in the US  identified a set of non-academic skills that are essential for a child. SEL was introduced  so that schoolchildren learn to handle their emotions, deal with bullying and conflicts, develop concern for others and make ethical decisions.

The goal of SEL is to enable a child to form positive relationships both inside and outside of the classroom. The most effective method is through the four E’s of learning  – Example, Education, Experience and Encouragement.  A recent report  discusses whether SEL programs have worked in the school environment.

Whatever the schools may or may not do, the parental role is indispensable. See my post on the tremendous influence that you have on your child's educational prospects.

Bullying is a serious problem among children of all ages. It can happen to your child too.  Click here to know more.

September 17, 2011

Babes & A Bike

The three beauties in my son's life: Amaya, Shalaka and a Harley-Davidson.
The pictures were taken on a bright summer's day somewhere in the US of A.
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September 15, 2011

Your Child's Education

If you are a parent, I bet you have spent considerable time on your child's future - thinking, planning, working, dreaming, worrying, hoping, praying. Has it helped? To what extent? If you have wondered, as I have, then read on.

The question is easy: How can a parent ensure that the child realises its full potential while growing into an adult? The answer varies, depending on who is giving it and why. Which raises more difficult questions.

Which School?
Imagine that you are a parent who wants to choose the *best* possible school for your child. One school (motivated by commercial considerations) suggests that the more expensive the fee structure, the better the education. Another school (elitist) says that its exclusive brand (old school tie) and individual attention (low teacher:student ratio) is what counts. A third one waves the social class flag (allegiance to community/religion). A fourth school (academic performance) flaunts the high scores and ranks of its past students in competitive exams. Let us assume that all these schools are willing to admit your child. On what basis will you choose?

Learning
Having admitted the child to school, a parent has to help him to study  and equally important, to develop study skills. Parents look for private tuition and coaching classes, driven by peer pressure and the desire to gain competitive advantage. Is this good for a child's development and success in life? Have you ever wondered about those who crammed hard and scored the top ranks in the school Board examinations? Ten years later, I am not sure that they all turned out tops in terms of  success or happiness. This raises the question whether success and happiness correlated. Does one guarantee the other?

We know that there is more to learn in school than the three R's. The current trend is to send children to various classes - dancing, music, dramatics, elocution, painting, sports and martial arts. The more, the merrier. How much do extra-curricular activities contribute to a child's education? It is better than sitting in front of the TV, say the busy parents.

Then we have the huge under-explored area of SEL. A child needs to learn social and emotional skills in order to cope with the real world out there.  Read about it here.

Parents' Role
Some experts think that the biggest factor which determines a child's academic performance is genetic. In plain-speak it means that the genes of the two parents have, more or less, set the level of  the child's future academic performance. So parents, before you reproduce make sure that you are intelligent and well-educated; then sit back and wait for your child to become as great as you are ... just kidding :)

We shall not jump to the (fatal) conclusion that diligent  training and good parenting are not important. The latter is, imho, absolutely vital. A child learns best through the Four E's.

Success and Happiness
Read sociologist  Christine Carter  for thought-provoking  insights on parenting for academic success. According to her, a happy child is more likely to be successful than an unhappy one.  Shawn Achor in his book The Happiness Advantage writes  “Happiness fuels success, not the other way around. When we are positive, our brains become more engaged, creative, motivated, energetic, resilient, and productive at work.”

Let us get back to our first question. How can parents influence their children towards greater academic success? We have some key pointers: genetics,  good schooling,  hard work, exposure to multiple activities, the happiness factor. Now what?

Before you throw a virtual brickbat at me, I'll stop further questions and confess that I do not have the answers. My purpose is served if you have begun to doubt conventional wisdom and to reject facile answers.  Read, ponder, discuss, observe and  draw your own conclusions. Tell those noisy kids to pipe down and think some more!

September 12, 2011

The Circus

It must be at least 20 years since I saw a live circus. I wondered what it is like now. Here are 3 links to the modern circus that I found online.




When I was a schoolgirl - a million years ago - the circus came to town once a year. We made sure to visit the circus at least once. Some lucky children got to see it twice. The tents were pitched on the biggest maidan in town. Hawkers set up small stalls and handcarts around them. Some squatted at strategic spots and displayed their  wares to catch the attention of the children. My personal favourite was the puggawala (balloon man), with coloured balloons twisted into different shapes and helium balloons that floated upright. 

A kid does not watch a circus without something to munch.  Candy floss, called Buddhi ka Bal (old woman's hair) was a general favourite. A bar of ice candy or dudh candy to lick was almost mandatory. Ice cream at 4 annas (a quarter of a rupee) was a luxury available in perhaps two or three outlets in town . Hot roasted chana was sold in small paper cones. You got one cone for a mukkalu, a 3-paisa bronze coin with a hole in the middle. Sweet vendors sold coconut toffee, lemon drops and striped peppermints. I do not recall seeing popcorn or chocolate bars at such fairs.   

Inside the circus tent, the huge ring  was the center of attraction. And once, there came the Kamala Circus, with not one, but Three Rings! At one end, on a raised platform brightly decorated in red, a live band played. Below this was a colourful velvet or satin curtain, behind which exciting preparations could be heard. Cages and props being trundled, animal noises, men dashing about doing mysterious things with ropes, pulleys, pails and whatnot. We sat around in tiers, our feet resting on the uneven ground partially covered with sawdust, wooden planks and matting. The band played on. The clowns did their slapstick routines. When the ringmaster arrived to the sound of fanfare from the band, the lights came on and the curtains opened. The show had begun.

Tigers, lions, elephants, camels, bears, horses, dogs, birds - in my mind's eye, I see them all. The wonder of it! I guess we were too young and innocent to realise the cruelty to the magnificent beasts of the forest.  But somehow, I felt sorry for the performing bears. Even at that young age, the ignominy of being prodded by a stick to perform ridiculous acts bothered  me. And I waited impatiently for the horses. 

I admired the lithe beauty of  handsome riders in fancy gear, who performed marvellous stunts on horseback to the accompaniment of the band. I can close my eyes at this moment and hear the sounds of galloping horses keeping pace to the rhythm of the drums. The clowns (many of them dwarfs) ran along helter skelter, with shrill cries and laughter. We clapped and cheered, as the animal acts ended with a grand procession. On the back of the biggest elephant rode a queenly lady waving and smiling.

Then one after the other, came the acrobats, knife-throwers, fire-eaters, jugglers and of course, the cyclists. Beneath their flouncy short skirts, shorts and tight tops in bright pinks, blues and whites the cyclists had taut muscular bodies. What amazing tricks and balancing acts they performed! Then there was a noisy motorbike act in a hollow sphere. Specially the boys  loved to watch as one and sometimes two motorbikes, whirled round and round,  faster and faster, inside the sphere.

The grand finale was the trapeze performance . Special safety nets were fastened in place. The artistes, dressed in white bodysuits, clambered up the rope ladders to their allotted corners way above our heads, towards the top of the tent. The lights dimmed and spotlights were trained upwards.  Then to slow, throbbing music, the trapeze swings began to go back and forth. Breathless with excitement, we gazed up. The artistes performed their magic with perfect timing and co-ordination.  An occasional clown pretended  to miss the extended hands of his partner and came tumbling down to the safety net. This gave us a chance to laugh and release tension. Immediately after the climactic trapeze act, the lights came on. The show was over. 

Plane Fascination

Little boys (and some little girls too) are fascinated with planes. My grandson is no exception. In fact, he is attracted to almost anything connected to a motor. The vacuum cleaner at home, the lawnmower in the garden, the weekly garbage truck, the delivery vans - they all get his fullest attention. Motorbikes and cars are his obsession. On the road, he keeps a sharp look-out for diggers (earth-movers) at construction sites, cop-cars on the move, boats on the  waterfront and planes flying overhead. Vardaan, the video clips below are specially for your viewing pleasure.

...Take off
... Rare planes
... Landings
... Low-altitude flying
... Fly-past

September 05, 2011

Vardaan's 3rd Birthday

Since my grandson is continents away, this is how I wish him for his birthday.



Dear Vardaan
Happy Birthday Scraps and quotes for Orkut, Myspace, hi5

Am I glad that I became a Blogging Grandmom :)


August 19, 2011

Golbully and the Cupcake

A short visual story for my grandkids




The audio of the story is not yet included. Please read out the narration to the kids as it appears. Even better, improvise in your mother tongue as you go along.

August 17, 2011

Nursery Rhymes

Modern technology offers new routes to long distance grandparenting! I make short clips for my grandchildren, with stuff that I would normally do with them face-to-face. Once my clip is ready, I email it or burn a CD. Putting the clip online is another way, as I did with this nursery rhyme Lal Jhandey for preschoolers to sing numbers in Hindi.


December 22, 2010

Christmas 2010

Christmas is round the corner...
The best way to catch the spirit is
Through bright and innocent eyes
Specially when
They belong to one's own grandkids !


Put yourself in the spirit of Christmas. Watch this Nativity Video and listen to Amy Grant.


The past 12 months were eventful.Let's look forward to the New Year
with Faith, Hope and Love.

September 10, 2010

USA, Summer of 2010

Three months with my family on the East Coast. Spending time under the same roof and participating in their lives. I got to see my newest grandchild Amaya as she said her first words and took her first steps! I got to share stories, take train rides and play with my eldest grandchild Zoya.

How does one sum up the wonderful times, the precious memories? I will try - promise!

March 11, 2010

My Firstborn

This night, 37 years ago, a miracle happened to me. Just as it keeps happening every hour of the day, to some woman, somewhere. My firstborn arrived, with both of us screaming our lungs out!

Happy Birthday, son!

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